Hi there, it’s Raima here again with another thought-provoking article on female-led relationships and gender dynamics.
Today, I want to tackle a subject that may sound a bit silly at first, but bear with me – it goes much deeper than you might think.
We’re going to explore why, in a true female-led marriage or relationship, the husband or male partner should be expected to sit down when urinating rather than standing up.
I know, I know…you’re probably thinking “What? That’s crazy talk!” But let me break it down for you.
At the core of any female-led dynamic is the understanding that women hold the ultimate authority, respect, and decision-making power. We are the leaders, the ones “wearing the pants” if you will.
Traditional patriarchal structures have long suppressed females, so female-led relationships help rebalance that archaic power differential.
With that philosophy in mind, having a male stand up to urinate is a symbolic gesture of patriarchal dominance and masculine entitlement.
Think about it – by standing, he is metaphorically planting his feet in a displays of male bravado, urinating from a elevated position onto his territory.
It’s a subconscious assertion of male ownership and dominion over his bathroom space.
Conversely, sitting down to pee is a postural demonstration of humble submission from the male. He literally lowers himself in deference to the female authority holding sway over him and their shared domestic realm.
His seated, compromised position signifies a surrender of masculine posturing in favor of feminine leadership.
Sitting also eliminates those terrible “splatter” issues that inevitably crop up when males insist on strutting around and urinating whilst standing.
Having your husband or boyfriend contain his deposit in the toilet bowl shows respect for the work you put into keeping your home clean and sanitary.
No woman wants to walk into her bathroom and see drip stains on the floor or toilet from her man’s lack of discipline at the urinal.
Some radical feminists have even posited that standing to urinate emboldens the same socialized arrogance that leads to sexual assault and other demeaning behaviors towards women.
I’m not fully convinced of that, but it’s food for thought.
At a minimum, sitting does seem to inculcate a higher degree of masculine humility and propriety.
From a purely practical standpoint, sitting is simply more hygienic for males.
Their anatomy makes it easier for them to make a mess when standing, whereas females don’t have the same control issues.
Why wouldn’t a respectful man make the minimal effort to eliminate any unnecessary uncleanliness? It’s just basic politeness.
You may encounter some pushback from men who protest that sitting down to pee is “unmanly” or an afront to their gender identity.
This is simply toxic masculinity rearing its insecure head. A truly confident, modern male should have no qualms about adjusting his behavior to prioritize his girlfriend’s or wife’s wishes and increased household tranquility.
If your husband or boyfriend digs in his heels over this issue, it may reveal deeper seeds of disrespect, control issues, or a refusal to accept your leadership. This is a major red flag about his willingness to embrace loving female authority.
True female-led relationships require the male to let go of antiquated hang-ups about masculinity and defer to his woman’s preferences, no matter how unconventional they may seem at first.
Ultimately, asking a man to sit instead of stand in the bathroom is a small request that carries immense symbolic weight.
It sets the tone about who the true authority figure is in your household dynamic.
If he respects and loves you, he should embrace this simple show of submission and decorum with grace and humility.
So ladies, don’t be afraid to lay down the law on this one! Your bathroom Territory, your rules. And for the gentlemen out there, sitting really isn’t that difficult.
Your masculinity isn’t diminished by assuming a more polite, sanitary posture at the porcelain throne.
You’re simply showing your wife or girlfriend the respect and deference she deserves as your leader and partner.
Those are just my thoughts, but I’d love to hear your perspectives as well! As always, feel free to share your comments and stories below. Engaging discussion helps make this community stronger.
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Hello,
My spouse and I have I guess you’d say a low level FLR. Outward appearance looks like we are equal in everything. But in our relationship she is the final decision maker and I follow her rules. Sitting to pee to us was just a sanitary thing to do. We both hated how gross the toilets got, and knew it was my fault. So I suggested I could sit and she was very pleased. Now cleaning the bathroom is a lot easier. We don’t think of it as a dominance thing. But hooboy, mention it to a friend and you’d think I was castrated, weird.